You can call me selfish, but I simply realized I needed something more and I went for it. My name is Jennifer, and I’m a 32-year-old mother of two beautiful little girls who are now 4 years old. I married relatively young, at the age of 24, and after years of trying to conceive naturally I opted for in vitro fertilization to make my dream of becoming a mother a reality.
It took me a year and a half to get pregnant, but when I finally did I was ecstatic. My beautiful little girls were born and I could not had been happier. I met my now ex-husband in high school, and we dated for about 5 years before tying the knot. We were happy, I can’t say that we weren’t, but over time he had changed. Looking back at it now, I know I’d played a part in it, but I didn’t like the person he had become. He turned into a workaholic, spending 14 hours at the office almost every day. You can imagine that this left very little room for me and the kids in his busy schedule. I thought the extra money could compensate for his absence, but in the end I just realized it wasn’t worth it anymore. I wanted someone by my side, someone who would pay attention to me every day, and someone who would be a father to my children. For some reason, he chose work over us. Or at least that’s how I saw it.
After 13 years of being together in total, I decided I had had enough. I wanted more out of life, not just waiting around for him to show up when he pleased or when he wasn’t too busy at work. I even tried suggesting we move to another city or even country to basically start over, spend more time with each other and be a real family. He didn’t even want to talk about it so after careful deliberation it became clear there was no other way. I worked up the courage and told him it was over. He was devastated, obviously, but it’s not like he didn’t see it coming.
Also, as sure as I was that it was time for me and the kids to go, I was heartbroken too. He was not the first man whose job had cost him his marriage, but I felt like we were the only two miserable failures in the world. When I took the kids and left I went back to my parents’ house. They were as supportive as they could had been, and I’m eternally grateful. However, it was me who had to glue the pieces of my life back together. I spent about a year contemplating what I had done. I worked less and tried to spend more time with my children. After a while I felt like I was ready to get back in the dating game and find someone to call my own again.
The problem was that I had spent 13 years with my ex-husband, and I had completely forgotten how to be single and how to mingle. To be honest, I only had one serious boyfriend before my husband so it’s safe to say I’d never had any game to begin with. I asked my friends to set me up with their single friends, but it turned out I hated it. I hated our local dating community, and frankly my friends sucked at matchmaking. So I was left with no other choice but to turn to online dating. It had been so long since I’d last been single that I basically had no clue what online dating even was. To tell you the truth, it’s not that difficult to master, and what’s more, it works splendidly! You just have to find a dating site that caters to your specific needs, and bam! Off you go on a date next weekend.
My perfect online dating site was Dating Honey Love. It was the sweetest online dating community that found Justin for me after only two weeks! Justin and I hit it off immediately, but because I was tied down for so long I’m not ready to rush into things just yet. For now we’re just dating, but we are exclusive and hopefully our relationship blossoms into something truly lasting.