Weird fetishes are everywhere, but the trick is to know how to present them to a new partner or someone you’ve been with for a little longer. We’d like to help you set your fetish free, and take your sex life to a whole new level.
Fetishes are extremely widespread, and come in all sorts of shapes and forms from the people you’d least expect. Lots of us out there need specific kind of stimulation to become sexually aroused, including touching an object or material or watching someone do something sexual. Having a fetish does not make a person weird or dangerous, as long as there is clear consent from everyone involved, but weird fetishes are a different story we’d actually like to explore here.
What Does Fetish Mean?
Having a fetish means getting sexually aroused or getting sexual gratification from touching a material, usually leather or an object, looking at a body part or watching someone perform an act. Having a fetish does not mean a person is an outcast because there are millions of people out there with perfectly healthy and safe fetishes that are explored in the privacy of their own bedroom. However, things can get more complicated when fetishes include exposing private parts in public, having sex in public places or being watched by others. These can be classified under weird or better yet dangerous fetishes as they include acts that are illegal.
Types of Weird Fetishes
Types of fetishes that are not in any way disturbing include shoe fetishes or some good old S&M. On the other hand, when someone is aroused by amputees (acrotomophilia), insects (formicohilia), or fog (nebulophilia), we can all pretty much agree that their fetish is super weird. People can have such strong fetishes that not only can they not get aroused without their object of fixation, but in many cases they can’t even climax without it. Life must be tough for ‘nebulophilics’ in sunny Spain or for ‘formicohilics’ trying to find a living and breathing insect under the piles of snow in Canada six months of the year.
Explore Your Weird Fetish
If you want to explore a weird fetish, the first thing you need is a partner you can trust to support you, instead of laughing in your face or making you feel dirty or nuts. Prepare your partner for sharing your secret with them by openly talking about sexual thoughts or ideas, and exploring sex further. Another thing you’ll need is a safe word that you and your partner can use when one of you reaches a point where you’re no longer comfortable. Safe words establish a level of trust, in addition to being more acceptable in bed than the word ‘no’.
What If They’re Not Into It?
If you find that your partner doesn’t understand your fetish, there are several ways you can go about overcoming this issue. First, you can suggest starting off easy and exploring the fetish together to get more comfortable, and to allow your partner some time to adjust. Talk to them in non-threatening ways, praising your time together, and speak with confidence about your bond that is unshakable. Don’t forget to say you’d never leave your partner for not wanting to indulge you in this way, but do make it clear that including your fetish in your sex life would make you super happy.
Forget About Shame
Once you get your partner on board, exploring your own sexuality with someone who wants the same thing is a wonderfully fulfilling experience that can give your sex life new meaning. However weird your fetish may be, remember that there is always someone out there getting off on much crazier stuff. Thanks to the internet, you can now connect to people with the same fetish as yours, which will give you the opportunity to share your experiences and take your sex life to a whole new level, provided you don’t already have a significant other in your life. The point is to feel comfortable in your own skin and free to flaunt your fetish when the time is right. Hiding behind sexual conformity gets old pretty quickly, and so does having to suppress your true desires, especially when you’re in a long-term relationship.